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How Can I Make Him Fall In Love With Me

2010-03-20T22:01:00.003-04:00

Quote of the day:"Find a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on him, who will lie under the stars and listen to your heartbeat, or will stay awake just to watch you sleep... wait for the boy who kisses your forehead, who wants to show you off to the world when you are in sweats, who holds your hand in front of his friends, who thinks you' re just as pretty without makeup on. One who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares and how lucky he is to have YOU... The one who turns to his friends and says, that's her..."
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You love him but he doesn't love you and yet both of you are in a relationship. Which takes us to the most common question that many women ask their friends or even themselves -- "How can i make him fall in love with me?"

Short answer to that is: you can not make him fall in love with you. At least not majority of cases. There is that certain percentage of men who will eventually fall in love with you, however you need to be willing to stay with that man possible for years to come before he falls in love with you eventually -- or if he ever will.

One important thing you need to remember about men and that is : men will never change about how they feel about attraction. Never. It is impossible to convince a man with your "intelligence". You can be smart but if he is not attracted to you , he will never like or love you. No matter how hard you try to convince him otherwise.
No matter if you call him everyday or make him dinner or buy him things. His feelings will not change for you. He will still feel the same way.

Common saying "you can not buy love". Love comes to you naturally. He either loves you or he doesn't.

He may "like" you but that doesn't necessarily mean he "loves" you.

If you are currently in a relationship with a man who doesn't love you and yet you love him with all your heart. It will be very difficult for both of you. There are maybe reasons why he is still with you. Maybe he feels sorry for you. Maybe he himself was never loved so much before by anyone else and your true love does make it special for him. He may not love you now but he will MAYBE fall in love with you in the future. There is a very low chance of that happening but anything is possible.

Interracial Dating For Women

2010-03-18T22:50:00.002-04:00

Quote of the day: "Love is as much of an object as an obsession, everybody wants it, everybody seeks it, but few ever achieve it, those who do will cherish it, be lost in it, and among all, never... never forget it"
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Interracial dating is more common now than it was few years ago. Especially in Canada, in a busy city of Toronto. People with different backgrounds and cultures have no problems dating and creating happy families.

Question arises among many. Is it possible to have healthy relationship with two people of different origin and different culture. My answer to that is: yes, however it will be very challenging and more work than usual.

Also keep in mind possibility of having to confront the family of your spouse. His family most likely will not approve of this relationship. It will be difficult for both of you. There is nothing you can really do to change their mind. They will always try to do something to break it up. So you have to be ready for anything. Before you start dating him, you need to assume the possibility of having to deal with his family and their negativity. If you have soft personality, you might not deal well with it.

You also need to learn about his culture and how things back in his own country. It is crucial to know. If you don't, some of the things he will do, will confuse you and upset you.

Interracial dating is challenging but when two people are in love, there is nothing anyone can do to come between them!

Afraid To Have Your Heart Broken Again?

2010-03-16T20:00:00.002-04:00

Quote of the day: "I self destruct every relationship so that i don't get hurt but truth is: i just hurt myself worse in the long run"
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Your heart is broken. A man who used to be the love of your life - is no more. For whatever reason - he is no longer with you. It hurts. It hurts so much that you just want to forget about the world. You do not feel like you want to exist in this world. Your world is over, meanwhile real world engine continues to run. This is followed by deep depression. You feel like your heart stopped beating or that you wish it did.

The only way out of this situation, in your current state of mind, is to find someone quickly and try to trick your mind into "loving this person" or having sex with that person to stop this pain that's inside of you. It is wrong thing to do. It won't help you but inside you feel that it will heal the pain.

All those nights that you cry and cry - it seems like there is no end to tears. Hopeless nights you spend alone in your room. Feeling of worthlessness is growing fast with every day passing its turn.

There is no real solution to this. Nothing i can write to help you deal with it. It all depends on how strong you are, but sometimes even the strongest give up. However what i can say is TIME will bring closure. Time will heal your wounds. Let the time do its deed. It will help you forget. Time will help you to move on with your life. Get back on your feet.

When the time is right. You got back on your feet. How do you go about dating now? I know one thing for sure. You are afraid to commit to a guy because you do not want to experience that same horrible feeling. You do not want to experience your heart being broken. You do not want to experience all those nights spend crying in your room. So what do you do? You sleep around with guys. You treat guys like they are just "piece of meat" or "toy boys". You sleep around and you do not commit. You have no feelings for a guy. If one guy breaks up with you -- you just move one to the next one without even glancing at him again.

I do not blame you for having fear to having your heart broken, however of all those guys you will date, and that you will eventually let go off, could potentially be your husband. One day you need to make that decision and that decision will be to learn to love again and you will be loved back.

You will sometimes self-destruct the relationship on purpose. Why? Because you are afraid to get hurt. So when things are getting "too good to be true" . What you do? You pull the plug. You find some silly reason to break up.

It takes a lot of courage to fall in love again. We all want to be loved. Life is rather pointless and empty when dating many different people all your life without any commitments. Do not be afraid to love again. Love is a beautiful thing with a lot of rewards. Give "love" another chance and one day, you will be thankful that you did.

How To Impress His Family And Close Friends

2010-03-16T17:20:00.009-04:00

Quote of the day: "Don't let someone become your everything, because when they're gone you have nothing"
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OK. You finally found your true love. The man that you been looking for all your life. Both of you connected. Chemistry is amazing. You have been dating for several weeks or months now. You think to yourself - mission accomplished....well, not really.

I hate to say this but this is probably 50% of mission accomplished. Next step and probably the most important step you will ever take is to meet his parents and friends. You need to be genuinely liked and accepted by his family and friends. Yes. This is one of those situations where you can "make it or break it".

It is sad reality but a majority of cases, if you leave bad impression to his family, they will pressure him to leave you and most family and friends achieve their goal.

Remember, his family been there for him his entire life and best friends advice him or reveal stuff about you that he "doesn't realize" or doesn't "notice" about you.

Negative opinion of a friend can sadly make him leave you. That could be heart breaking and this is exactly why i will try to inform you, so this doesn't happen to you and give you enough knowledge on how to "meet the parents" situations.

First impression counts! This is your one and only time to impress. Consider this like a date where you found your soul mate. Your first impression in his eyes counted for everything. Nothing different when you meet his parents and friends.

Steps to follow when meeting his friends and family members:

1. Big, nice, genuine smile. People tend to make those fake smiles and it is easy to spot. If they notice that you trying to fake a smile, biggest turn off and you can call it game over.

2. Remember every ones names. Be ready for it. How many of you found yourself in this situation: You walk into a room of three to ten people maybe. You will be introduced to everyone by your man. They will tell their name and you will tell them yours. When introduction is over - you have no clue who is who. Yes. Sadly me. If you are bad with names, like i am, before you visit his parents try to practice at home by remembering random names. There are few reason why people forget names. Maybe the person was wearing something elegant and you were paying attention to that instead of the name and etc. Remember the names, because next time you want to talk to them, you want to call their name and not "excuse me ma am/sir". It will show that you care and that you genuinely interested in them.

3. Be a good listener. Do not interrupt when they talk. Don't worry , they will give you opportunity to talk. They will probably ask you many questions because they are curious about you.

4. Do things to make them feel important. If they don't have water left in a glass -- offer to fill it up. Small things like that. They count.

5. Be yourself. So many people try to be someone else. Be yourself and be genuine with answers. Prove to them that their son made the right choice. Don't be fake. Be real, because that's what people want to see. Someone who is real and right for their son.

5 Flirting Tips For Women

2010-03-14T18:12:00.004-04:00

Quote of the day: "If you love someone you would be willing to give up everything for them, but if they loved you back they would never ask you to"
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Flirting is the best way to indirectly let a guy know that you are interested in him. It gives a guy a chance to make a move and follow up by initiating a conversation with you.

1. If you are working on something, and the guy is nearby, ask him to help you. Even if you don't need help, ask him for help anyway.

2. Call him by name. Shows that you remember his name and it is a positive vibe for him.

3. Smile - If he looks at you, smile at him. This is probably one of the most powerful flirting techniques.

4. Eye contact - If he looks over into your direction, look directly into his eyes and keep direct contact for few seconds. After few seconds you can break eye contact. Try not to stare too long. He will instantaneously know that you are interested in him.

5. Be yourself. Be natural. Engage in a conversation. He will know that you are genuinely interested.

5 Signs Your Relationship In Trouble

2010-03-15T14:56:00.008-04:00

Quote of the day: "The couple that fights the most is the one most in love... it shows they care enough to notice the other one screwed up and care enough to mention it to the person so they can fix it. When you stop fighting it means you stopped caring"
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Five signs that your relationship is in trouble. Those would be:

1. Your partner is being unfaithful to you -- Weather you caught him chatting online with women or getting calls from other women. You know something is going on behind the scenes that you don't know about.

2. There is no sexual drive anymore -- He stopped wanting to have sex. Sudden change in sex drive is a big red flag. Try to find out what is going on with him. Let him speak and see how he responds to your questions when you dig deeper into the truth. Check for his body language. If he becomes nervous or uncomfortable or defensive, then you know he is up to something no good.

3. Arguing about everything -- Every little thing imaginable. Trying to argue for no reason at all. Keep arguing non stop.

4 Arguing about big things -- It is healthy to some expend, to find yourself arguing about small things once in a while, however when you start arguing about big things in your relationship, such as kids, home, investments then you know there is trouble waiting to happen down the road.

5. He is trying to avoid you -- Either by working longer hours or going to his friends house or having "business meetings" more often than usual. In general, every chance he has to avoid you, he will take that chance.

5 Questions All Single Women Should Ask

2010-03-07T14:45:00.007-05:00

Quote of the day: "Some of the greater things in life are unseen thats why you close your eyes when you kiss, cry, or dream..."
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Here is a list of 5 questions that all single women should ask a man. If your intentions is to have serious relationship you need to know:

1) What are your short-term goals - After you ask him this question, you listen. At this point , you are trying to identify if he is a player or someone you can develop long term relationship with.

2) What are your long-term goals - His goals should be different from short-term goals. If they are not, then most likely he has NO goals at all and he is just making stuff up as you go along.

3) What are your views on relationships - You can ask these questions on first date, in a club or wherever. Don't matter. It is a reasonable question that you need an answer to. He can tell you about his relationship with his friends, family or whatever, as long as he is capable of having normal relationship. You want to make sure he is not on this all for himself.

4) What do you think about me? - Get ready to be complimented :)

5) What do you feel about me? - You may get a small pause from him. He needs to think fast and give you right answer. At this point you know what his intentions are. If he is only good for one purpose or an actual relationship and marriage.

Why Married People Cheat. Hide Secrets.

2010-03-12T13:46:00.009-05:00

Quote of the day: "Each Of Us Are angels With Only One Wing, And We Can Only Fly By Embracing One Another"
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People always want to know the truth. If you are married to him or in a relationship, sometimes or often, depending on the level of trust between you and your partner, you have to disclose every bit of information of where you went--if you been out, what you did--that specific time, or who you had been with and so on.

You tell the truth and you feel good about it. After all, as most would say "truth never hurts", right?

Now things are never perfect. Life is bumpy road or like a stock market that never goes like a straight line. You got your ups and downs. Hopefully more "ups" then "downs", but eventually you do have to face the "downs" like it or not. How do you handle the situation if one arises?

If you unintentionally had a one night stand together: What would you do?

Do you tell your husband the truth as you were told to say all your life or do you keep it a secret and move on with your life?

Well of course there are bunch of people who can live their life without guilt eating up inside of you and they never have the urge to let it out by telling the truth.

But many are facing this dilemma. To tell or not to tell. You want to tell because its the right thing to do. Many people would say " well you put yourself in that situation, so its your fault", however sometimes things you can't control. Spontaneous situations happen and so is moment of thrill and excitement that lasts a day and remembered a life time.

Your partner may not take it so well. It is a known fact that some people would rather not know the truth and if they do, the feeling of betrayal is nothing different than a stubbing wound in your heart.

In most cases if the truth is revealed. Everything you ever worked for in life is gone: kids, home and everything you ever had, all gone, just because of this one night stand. This effects your kids. This emotionally and physically effects your partner in a way that you would never know.

Very few would forgive and keep the marriage or relationship going. Trust is gone. Now the only reason why they are still together are the kids. So you stay with him for years and years of truly unhappy relationship for the sake of happy children.

Of course there could be plenty more different reasons why anybody would cheat on their spouse, few of those reasons would be:

1) Lack of sexual intimacy - Your partner no longer wants to have sex with you.
2) Lack of emotional intimacy - Your partner no longer enjoys having sex with you.
3) Life style changes - This might be a mid-life crisis.
4) More sexually active than average people - You want to have sex with more than one person. Often one is not enough. More or less like an addiction.

Dating After Divorce. How Soon Is Too Soon

2010-03-13T15:16:00.006-05:00

Quote of the day: "We were given: Two hands to hold. To legs to walk. Two eyes to see. Two ears to listen. But why only one heart? Because the other was given to someone else. For us to find"
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Divorce is hard. Divorce drains you of any emotions left inside of you. Divorce creates more hatred within yourself. Divorce may even change personalities but it also opens up new sets of doors into a more bright future. Divorce is like a bad relationship break up, only difference is, with divorce you get lawyers to help you divide finances and property between all 4 of you-lawyers included. So not only you are emotionally effected but also financially devastated.

Times goes by and you think to yourself -- When is the good time to start dating? My answer to that is -- now. Now is the time. The moment you got divorced is the time to start dating again! Life is too short to be bitter and sad and single. It is time to celebrate with a nice bottle of champagne with all your close friends. If you do not have friends or they are unavailable to you at that moment, well, no worries, buy a kitten or cute dog and celebrate with them instead. Why not. There is nothing better than opening bottle of champagne with your kitten or a dog. At least your pet is a better companion to you now than your ex husband!

You are officially on the market for guys to sweep you off your feet. Of course you want to take it really slow. Now you have experience. Most likely you know what you want and you are out there to get it. Once you do find that someone. Keep dating him. Do not feel like you have to commit yourself to long term relationship but instead -- keep dating. You will know when it is time to take things a bit further. In your heart you will know but it wont be for a while.

Focus on your future not the past. When you occupy your thoughts with the past you can't normally live your life however when you completely forget the past and only focus on the future -- more positive and better things come into your life.

5 Things not to share with your best friend

2010-03-04T19:00:00.004-05:00

1. Your boyfriends secret sexual fantasies - Girls talk and share even though they swore on their life they won't. They will.

2. Opening business together - Ok sometimes things workout and you are still friends however i am here to disappoint you and tell you that majority of such blunt business decisions become true disasters after you no longer friends and/or business doesn't go so well and it destroys your friendship. Choose one. You are either friends or business partners. Never both.

3. Crush on a guy that you might consider dating - I can't believe girls actually tell this to their best friends. I hope that you realize if one day, you are no longer best friends , that statement would be the first thing your "best friend" will tell your boyfriend or husband. Keep it to yourself. Remember this: Today's friend is tomorrow's enemies.

4. The real opinion of her hair style or colour - Really? People like to hear what they want to hear. In reality they don't care what YOU have to say, they only care what they WANT to hear. Other way of looking at it is: girls want to confirm their own thoughts. So when you say something, better make sure its something that she wants to hear or else you are out of her friends list and no she won't make a big deal of it in front of you but don't expect her to associate with you from that point on. Don't expect a call from her or email or any other future communication.

5. Booty calls - Do i really have to comment on that one? Seems like a straight forward big no-no

Did he break up with you?

2008-05-19T09:47:00.013-04:00

This article will show you how to deal with break up. You will learn a lot from this and hopefully be strong enough to live your life. I have already posted an article similar to this one few months ago, but this time i would really like to go over detailed steps and things that you need to do after break up occurs. Break ups are unexpected and surprising. You can have the person break up with you in person, over the phone or the new kind of break up-usually done over text messenger and finally a break up that is really low class, such as: not telling the person about the break up at all. They just disappear into the blue moon. They would shut off contact without giving any kind of valid reasons.

Here is a suggestion to those that do feel like they need to break up with their partner. Tell it to them in person. Don't use any of those other methods that i have described above. If communication failed between both of you and the only solution is to break up and you feel like there is no way both of you could be together, then say it in person. Unless of course you don't feel safe doing that, then i suggest you break the news over the phone(with a recording tape beside you in case you feel like he might make any threats over the phone).

There is also another kind of break up. When both people have had enough of each other, they usually break up on good terms for a period of month to few months. The common goal essentially would be to reunite on new terms and fresh start together. Usually both partners have learned from their past mistakes and ready to take on a new challenge and fresh start to a beautiful relationship. I will go over this in detail in my next article. For now will continue with a break up process.

After break up, analyze the situation. You may realize that it may not be entirely your fault or not your fault at all. If you feel like that break up happened because of something that you did wrong then try to avoid repeating same mistake in your new relationship and believe me, there is always some one else who will probably treat you even better then your other partner.
Accept your pain. Cry if you have it. It is normal.
Your partner may offer for you to be friends after break up. Here is a fact: 90 percent of them don't even mean it or have no intention to be friends after break up. My personal suggestion is don't agree to being friends. Instead what you need to do is to completely block off all the contact from him. Do not answer his phone calls, or email, or text msg, do not under any circumstances see him or worse have sexual intercourse with him.
Control your hate for him. Anger level may depend on break up. If it was a really bad break up, you might have very high level of hate towards him. You might feel resentment towards your ex boyfriend for wasting your personal time or any other reasons associated with break up. Here is my suggestion. Get over it and fast. At this point you have no control of the situation and the longer you have hate inside of you the longer you will suffer emotionally. You are better than that. You don't deserve to be unhappy. In the end, he probably doesn't deserve you anyway. There hundreds of other men lined up wanting to be with you. You just need to pick and choose.
Talk with your friends and family members. This is very powerful way of getting away from all the negativity of break up. Go out to the parties and clubs with your friends. Enjoy and socialize.
Break up means new beginning. New life. Make the best of it. Move on. I know it is not easy as said as i make it in this blog but believe me, you need to move on. It was not your fault and even if it was it doesn't matter. Move on and find new love.
Find happiness in what you have biggest passion for. If you love to sing, then every day sing your favourite tunes. Do what you love doing best and that you have passion for. It is very powerful way of getting your mind off this break up.
Do not jump right away into new relationship. Do not try to have sex right away with other men. This will not solve anything. Take a break from relationships. Period. Instead enjoy time with your friends, family and do things that you have passion for.
Remember the phrase "what doesn't kill you, makes you stronger", or "Everything happens for a reason". When you are going through hardship and break up, you are actually one step closer to a true happiness because you are getting to know the true inner self.
Get a pet. Cute small puppy or a kitten will do just fine.
Go to movies with your friends and watch a comedy. Laughter is the best medicine for any kind of illness or heartbreak.

Follow these steps and you will be okay. I recommend you read this.

Happiness vs Money

2007-09-30T21:28:00.009-04:00

Too many people are self centered nowadays and are money hungry. There is never enough. It doesn't matter if you are earning two thousand or ten thousand a month, it is never enough. You simply adjust your life style to the maximum and keep living bills to bills on monthly basis.People are greedy or are they simply in need of money? Greed can bring troubles in your life. Your life will be empty and you will end up unhappy. Life is short. Need to make the best of it and be happy, but how do you do it? Is it a good paying job? Is it tons of money in the bank? Answer to both of those questions is no and no. You know the famous saying " the more money you have the more problems you have". Its true.You can live average life, have good car, average size house or apartment, and still be very happy. Rich individual may have everything in their life. Cars, boats, houses, tons of cash, but does it mean they are happy with their life? No. Many end up experimenting drugs in their life simply because they are not happy with their life or they are extremely bored. For average person, buying 50-inch plasma TV will make them extremely happy. Rich person will never be happy when they buy it, its like one of those things. Average individual will be extremely happy when they lease that very nice, brand new car and will take care of it and be very happy for a long time. Rich people will not be happy with a purchase of a car because they have twenty of those in a garage. Rich people may go for vacation, but how many vacations in a year does it take before you really become bored? Rich may party every day, but how many parties do you have to attend before you become really bored with it.Human beings adapt to new things very quickly. If going for one vacation makes you happy, then imagine going for vacation 5o times a year. Most people would adapt to this luxury and become unhappy about going for another vacation. It becomes one of those things that they did too many times and they get adapted to it very quickly.Love your life the way it is. Make the best of what you have. Count your blessings. Be happy even if it is a TV set that you bought. Remember to : Live, Laugh, Love!

Dating rules for women

2008-02-25T19:37:00.015-05:00

Many believe that it is in the best interest of women to play hard to get if they want to get their guy. Some people, mostly males, do not like this idea but the fact is when we grow up there is predefined set of dating rules. I would describe dating to be some sort of test of compatibility. At this point we are trying to figure out if we are meant to be with each other. If two people decide to be together without following those rules then the chances of long-term happiness may be reduced. And yet when you look at the couples back in the last century you will see that many of them managed to succeed on a far less complex courtship criteria list. Now, I have combined few rules that should help women to know their place in the dating world, they are: If he says that Wednesday would be good for a date, tell him you that you are only available Friday. Never talk about previous boyfriends. The number of ex boyfriends is your business and he will not like to hear about any of them. Let him pay for the bill on your first date. It shows a lot about his character if he does. If he doesn’t pay, you know that he doesn’t deserve the second date. Always try to look the best you can, even if you don’t have a set budget for it. Never sleep with a guy until he has fallen for you. If you do, then it will hurt the relationship in the long term.Don’t ever say bad things about his mother. If you did say negative things, he will probably never take you out on a date ever again.

Dating online vs other

2008-03-15T19:08:00.010-04:00

It is true what they say about Toronto. The city never sleeps. Its a beautiful city and dating life in Toronto never stops. Even with all those dating websites out there for people to use as a communication tool to create new friends and relationships, people still use the old fashion way of meeting people in a bar, a club, friends invite friends, street cars, downtown Toronto streets, subways, libraries, Toronto shopping malls or most common one --at work.

Real question is: how and where is the safest and sure way of finding what you are looking for? Is it using the most convenient way located at fingertips of your laptop, looking through tons of people and only selecting those that you think will make you happy for whatever purpose in a matter of minutes or actually meeting people on the streets of Toronto, face to face and talking with them before deciding on your full intentions?

If you see someone on Toronto streets and you start talking with them, you already know what they look like , aside from pictures. You instantly make judgements of that person that maybe in your favour or that you may not like the person and let them go without worrying about dating them in the future.These are the benefits of getting to know people face to face rather then Internet. The downside is of course, you cant really date as many people as you would like. You only get so many opportunities and if you get lucky , you will find someone who is exactly what you were looking for.

Now, when you are using Internet to find dates or friends , in this case, you can see their pictures(assuming they are real) but in real life, they may look very different, their voice may sound different and overall way of how they socialize and just simply talk. All of those things could be your downfall when you already go out with them for a date, realizing that you do not really like them. You may instantly find yourself in a situation that you would not want to be in.

There is a benefit to Internet dating. What is it? Well, you have much higher number to go through as oppose meeting people on the streets of Toronto. My personal estimate would be something like 1 to 10. For every one you can meet on the streets of Toronto there are 10 of the same people on the Internet that you can select from and maybe be happy with one.

The thing that really gets me is this: majority of those who choose to use computer to search for their match will most likely lie to friends or people that they know about where they found their match. Most will shy away and say they met them in a club or shopping mall or a friend introduced them but in reality they met online.

Tips on how to kiss

2008-03-16T20:42:00.013-04:00

Many people might think that kissing is not so important thus jumping right away into other ways of pleasuring their partner. Its sadly true for many couples. As you may not realize this, lips have huge amount of nerve endings that stimulate the desire for more when you start kissing your partner. The trick is to really know how to kiss mouth to mouth that would intensify other components of sexuality. The best way is to start slow. Do not come on too strong with your lips or you may end up accelerating his or her excitement too quickly. What you need to do is to gradually increase his or her arousal. The slower the buildup the better result at the end. Follow these steps:
What you first want to do is, give little pecks all over your partners face but not the lips, not yet! As your partners excitement grows touch their lip with the tip of your tongue. Your partner at this point will really try do mouth-to-mouth kiss, don't let them, not yet! Now, kiss with open mouth but no tongue allowed. The point is not to let them have what they want and that makes them go crazy and want you even more. Start sucking his or her lower lip and finally you can use your tongue this time for full pleasure. You are ready to take your partners tongue into your mouth, and very lightly suck on it. Time for a French kisses for few minutes. Continue until you reach the point where you are ready to go ahead to do more.

There are other ways to please your partner beside the mouth to mouth kissing. If you want to please your boyfriend or husband, read the following.
Some sections of the human body consists of large amounts of nerve-packed zones that in the case of contact with lips will arouse your partner to the highest level. Few of those would be: chest, fingers and ears. Each of those parts have tons of nerves and can be easily used to get him to really lose his mind! Kissing his chest you will send chills through his body by licking around the area and gently kissing his nipples. Next is his fingers. You can make his hair stand up on his neck if you suck the tips of his ears and say few naughty things. This can be huge plus! Moving along to fingers. Take his point finger into your mouth and suck on it, moving your mouth up and down the entire length in slow, even motions. If you do this right, he will be super turned on and ready for more!

Men and women are different

2008-03-17T18:51:00.006-04:00

Men and women are different. You may ask yourself "why do men and women always fight about something?". To answer this question, we will first look at ourselves. You expect your partner to be more like yourself. Everything you eat, do and believe in--you think your partner must follow those believes and interests. In your mind, you think "well, if he loves me then he should do everything i do and follow everything that i follow in my life". This kind of attitude will not have a good outcome and result in failing to lovingly communicate your differences.
Our biggest difference is when women try to offer their unsolicited advice and direction and men on the other hand will mistakenly offer solutions and invalidate feelings. By remembering our differences we can avoid the breakups and arguments that happen too often in our life.
When men is facing problems in his life he will instantly think about whats really bothering him, while women will right away approach to the issue and right away she wants to talk about this.
Believe it or not but the biggest problem that women are facing with men is that men don't listen. Men either don't listen at all or he will listen for a bit and then skip the rest of her conversation with him and then he would give his "expert" opinion on how to fix the problem. After women express their frustration, men scratch their heads and trying to figure out why she is upset with him after he helped her out with her problem. That's where the arguments begin its long trail of confrontations.
Biggest problem for men is when women trying to change them all the time. For women its something like "home improvement". When woman loves her man she will feel obligated to help him with things that he does and how he does them. Men become resistant and feel controlled by women.

Understanding men and women

2008-03-18T23:26:00.003-04:00

How are women and men differ from each other? First of all, women fantasize about romance, while men have more important fantasy in mind, such as, gadgets, fast cars, powerful technology and anything that is basically going to empower them. Men normally do not like when they are being told what to do. Most of the things they can do on their own will be done without anyone else's help unless he wants anyone else to help them. Again, men's instinct is whenever someone is talking about problems, men will always offer solutions. So if a women is talking about her problems men jump into conclusions on how to offer solution without even listening. Men do not realize that just by listening with empathy and interest to her problem, it will be more than enough for woman to appreciate his way of support!!
Women love to live in harmony, community and loving cooperation. In most cases, relationships are more important than work and technology, and for men its the opposite. Women don't wear uniforms so much, instead they enjoy changing their clothing to fit the modern style. Women are relationship oriented, they are more concerned with expressing their love and caring for her man. When ever men having troubles and they are trying to solve the problem, its best to just let him solve it on his own, rather than help him or give him suggestions. When women suggest a solution to a problem, men become defensive. It will upset them and women become upset as well, because men don't appreciate their advice!

How to keep relationship alive

2008-03-19T23:38:00.003-04:00

If you are currently in a relationship and things go really good for you today, don't be surprised if they go really bad the next day. Just when you had a perfect dinner at the restaurant and beautiful night together, one day you may find yourself emotionally distant and unloving towards your partner. You may also become depressed, irritable, defensive, critical, demanding, numb, angry, resentful, anxious or even exhausted for no reason at all.

Those sudden changes maybe confusing and unpredictable and you may even think that your love for your partner has died down. All of these mood swings are common in many relationships. Usually those feelings result from wounds from our past and we simply take it out on our partner.

Best way to explain and to solve this unpredictable problem that occurs at most unwanted times is to look into your past. For example: if you and your partner went out for a nice romantic dinner and you had a great time, you come back home and suddenly both of you engage into nasty verbal fight and its all because you forgot something. Now, after the argument you feel like you want to divorce your partner and get it over with. What you need to do is to analyze the situation and think what made you so upset. Is it the fact that your partner all of a sudden went crazy on you just because you forgot something? And now you are thinking of divorce? You may all of a sudden feel really afraid of being left or abandoned, because as a child you remmember when your parents fought and it makes you very uneasy.

You now need to talk to your partner before you make any decisions that you might regret and might not be able to turn back the time. Communication is the key. Ask them if this arguement had to happen and ruin everything. Ask them if this is worth fighting about. Ask them why this arguement had to happpen and what could both of you have done to avoid this now and in the future. So now you decide to forgive and go on. When you are really upset it is about something in your past.

To have a successful relationship we need to understand that love is seasonal with ups and downs. In the summer time and spring things might be great but soon fall and winter comming and you feel empty and depressed inside and you need to learn to deal with those feelings and try not to take it out on your partner.

Finding Mr. Right

2008-03-20T19:18:00.005-04:00

A man who can fulfil you spiritually and sexually. A man who can make you happy, become your true and the only soul mate and someone who will be honest and true to you. These are the qualities that would define Mr. Right. Now the question is in everybodys mind, where do we look for him and how long do we have to wait to find this soul mate? This is a very big planet and he could be anywhere. Maybe one day you will bump into him and from that point on, you know that this is the one. This is Mr. Right. Now thinking realistically, what are the chances of that happening? Pretty slim. Now you get discouraged and your mind set lowered your personal expectations of your soul mate, thinking that you will never find him or give up and live alone.

A lot of people turn to destiny for answer. What is destiny in our minds? Is it something that you know will happen without your attempt to do anything about it. Thinking that you will meet your Mr. Right simply because this is destiny or is it something that you need to work for very hard to achieve this kind of result. The answer to this is this: effort determines destiny not destiny on its own. Whatever you do in your life, where ever you go or whatever decisions you make will determine what your destiny will be. Simply sitting in your house will not make destiny find your Mr. Right. You need to contribute to this, put your own effort. Whatever happens after that, destiny will lead you into your path.

Once you meet your man and you fall in love with him, he will become the only one for you. You become attached to this person. This kind of attachment means that it is in your heart not destiny that makes a man into unique and irreplaceable partner for long time to come.

Compatibility and baggage issues

2008-03-21T23:26:00.003-04:00

Have you always had someone tell you one thing before you start dating? They would usually say, "always look for a good man". Now you are mistakenly follow this advice and think that this is how you find a true love with whom you can be compatible. Some men could be good and others could be bad, aggressive, distant, someone who can't love or maybe even some one who is too afraid to commit to a serious relationship. The truth of the matter is that any man in the wrong relationship will probably behave his worst. So to all the women in this world, my advice is this: do not look for a good man but instead look for a man who is good for you!

Now take a moment and look at your personal traits and qualities. Are you perfect for every man? Have you ever cheated on your man or be cruel to him? Is there a possibility that once in your lifetime you were cold and bossy and disregarded someone who was crazy in love with you but you weren't? Most likely you have in the past done that.

Fact of the matter is that nobody is perfect. People always tell you not to date anyone with a baggage and to me it sounds a bit unreasonable. Everyone has something from their past. It could be bad relationship, family problems. Could be past issues in the school or work. So with all that said, I want to stress out my point and that would be: its not a question if a person has baggage or not, but rather how this person handles his or her baggage!
So once you sit and talk with each other and discuss each others baggage, if you will, then at this point both of you can make decision if a relationship can be build or not. It is good to note also that people do learn from their failures, so in a way, its good to have someone with previous relationship experiences, because now you know that he or she is mature when it comes to making the right decisions during the good and bad times in the relationship, however, you need to remember another thing also, if this person happened to be involved in many past unsuccessful relationships then there is got to be a problem with this individual. At this point I would be careful and not jump into anything serious until you really find out the reasons and if this person changed or not.

Trusting your partner

2008-03-23T12:00:00.007-04:00

It's amazing feeling when you find someone that you can fully trust. They are fully committed to you, they are loyal, won't lie to you no matter what the circumstances are, they will never betray you. Most importantly, they won't cheat. Problems begin to spin its wheel when you actually start looking for that characteristic in a person. You say to yourself "the only person i would be interested is someone i can trust" and you announce it to the world.

Most men try not to be dishonest but unfortunately there are a lot of those who are always dishonest, these particular group enjoys knowing something their lover doesn't know, holding a secret that they realize would hurt their lover if they knew about it. Sexually they tend to be restless, hungry and always wanting to date someone else that they haven't had.

If you take a look at dating world online, you may notice that good percentage of women may write something like "looking for honest man who does not play games". This would be the worst thing to write. Right away this statement alone would label you as needy, insecure, gullible. The only guys that you will end up are liers. Think about the statement again, do you really think if a guy who is played games in the past will look at this statement and say to himself "wow, i better leave her alone, since i am a player i better off looking for someone else"? Of course not! He will say to himself "she is easy to fool and i know this because she is been fooled before. " He will pretend to be that guy that she is looking for, he will say all the right things that she wants to hear and before you know it, both of you are in a serious relationship with him fooling behind your back and finally going to someone else.

Meanwhile you are yet again-emotionally hurt and most likely will never trust any guy again in your life. This doesn't have to happen to you. You can avoid this. Do not announce that you are looking for someone you can trust but instead find out for yourself if you can or if you can not trust this person. This alone will save you a lot of tears and terrible experience with a guy.

I would like to make another point here. Assuming you are on a date with a guy and both of you are getting to know each other and sharing life experiences, your past as well as future goals and all of a sudden you pop the question " have you ever cheated on your ex". Now you sit and wait. The guy looks at you and says "of course not, never in my life". Then again you ask him another question " have you ever talked to other girls online while with your girlfriend". Again, his answer is "never". While you asking more questions, assuming that he continues to deny everything and wouldn't admit to single fault in his previous relationship.

Now, for his purpose, he wants to make himself look like a typical "good" guy, an angel, someone you can trust and depend on. A lot of ladies fall for that, they give this guy a chance to try to build relationship and don't realize that he is dishonest manipulator(in most cases that is the case). If a guy admits few things, right away she rejects him and never dates him again. Well, if that's how you do this, i have something else for you to know. You are making biggest mistake in your life. Why? Let me put it this way. If your goal is to find someone who you can trust and that is the only thing that you want from a guy--honesty, would it not make sense to except the fact, if he did admit few of his faults. He is telling the truth, he learned his lesson and will not make another error in judgement.

He is honest and open with you. Nobody is perfect. Its not what person did in their past that wouldn't not make them proud but what is this person going to do about it not to make the same mistake again! Honest man will admit his own imperfections. Get to know him more and see how he deals with his life and then you can see if you feel comfortable with him or not.

Why men resist change

2008-03-24T01:01:00.008-04:00

Both men and women have completely different emotional needs. That is where problems may begin. Biggest mistake is when we assume that we have same needs and desires. End result could be disappointment and we may become resentful of each other.

When a man is in a relationship with a woman, he is expected to care for her, respect and understand her. He needs to devote his personal time for her and reassure his love towards her! Meanwhile women need to reassure him that she is honest with him and accepts him for who he is. She will admire his ways of life, approve and encourage throughout the relationship.

It is very typical for women to try to change her man into a different person. This could bring potential problems. He may feel like she is trying to control him. Best advice i could give at this point is never to try to change a man or improve him. The more women trying to change men the more he resists. Instead trust him and he will acknowledge and appreciate that more than anything! He may even change on his own and improve his personal qualities.

Essentially there are two different kinds of men. Those who are way too stubborn for any kind of change, even a minor change and there are those who are willing to change but as the time goes by, they quickly forget their personal promises to change and come back to their usual way of life. If you want to improve him and change him, what you need to do is accept him the way he is and eventually he will improve.

You going to hear one motto that men like to use and that is "dont fix it, if its isn't broken". It is also true in their point of view when it comes to serious relationships. Men and women need to support themselves in ways that are important in their own unique needs.

Avoid "nice girl" syndrome

2008-03-25T17:48:00.008-04:00

Personality and personal characteristics of yourself could be the result of your family behaviours; values and respect that was once part of your life while you were living with your family. If you are a female and your mother was always cursing, screaming, smoking then most likely you will inherit those personal traits and become one of those people. Same goes for males. If his dad acted the same way, he would most likely end up like his father. On the other hand if your parents were very nice, never screamed or argued in public or in front of your eyes and if they were very conservative or religious then you would become that same person with those same good qualities. End result is: you either inherit good qualities of human being or bad qualities.

Being a nice girl makes you feel good. There is nothing wrong with being nice, however there is a problem when you get involved in a relationship. When you first start dating him, he doesn't know much about you and vice versa. At this point both of you testing the waters to see where your needs are and where you stand on certain issues or if you have personal weakness or not. You need to remember that if you are too nice, people will take advantage of that and you will end up unhappy.

Dating is like a game of cat and mouse. First date can mean a difference between second date or none. When you first start dating you have all the good cards in your hand. You do not want to give them out too quickly. Keep them close to your chest and don't show them. That way you will have that sense of control over situation.

Guys love to chase women. When the chase was long enough and he is finally with you, he is going to feel rewarded and treat you much better. After your first date, if you decide to sleep with him, you lost the game. Cards are on the table now and most likely you will not see him ever again. Why? He will run away because your behaviour doesn't suggest that you place a high value on yourself. Dating just began, you don't know much about him and yet you already dealt him the best cards. In addition to that he would think that you are desperate or he will assume that you are willing to sleep with any men right away.

Women need to be able to control themselves in a relationship. Every time you bend backwards for him, you are not making the situation any easier for yourself. He will test your limits and he will continue to test you to see how much further you can bend over for him. If you want to please your man, do so, but do not over do it. There are times when you need to speak up for the way he treats you. If he is unwilling to lift a finger during the relationship, he is showing you right up front that he has nothing to offer to you in the future.

So how do you get your man to love you more? First off, make him work for it. Don't make it too easy. Have control over situation and if certain things get too far--let him know that you are not okay with that. Communication is the key. He will love and respect you more if he feels like he worked hard enough to earn you. Have respect for yourself first. He will admire that and cherish you for that.

Why men don't call back after first date?

2008-03-25T19:32:00.006-04:00

In the title i refer to "why men don't call back after first date" , so in this example i am going to refer to both "men" and "women" who decide not to call back after having good first date with full hopes and future verbal intentions to have second date.

This is the most common question i get asked by one of my best friends or people who email me with their questions. They are confused and i don't blame them. So what is the problem here? They say to me, after going out for a very pleasant first date, they had tons of fun. It seemed like both of them clicked perfectly. Good stories were shared, laughs exchanged. Both liked what they were doing with their life. At the end of their date, they made out, kissing each other like there is no tomorrow and even telling each other that they will call back, soon after to find out that one of them didn't really made up on that promise.

This guy she dated didn't call her back after an incredible date. Why? Could be whole bunch of different reasons that you are not aware of and that he didn't inform you of. You have no control over it. One of the few answers could be: maybe he needed time off from his girlfriend or maybe he wanted to have a quick score with you. It is also possible that you were his one-night rebound girl or you simply intimidated him. Nobody really knows the answer but what i do know for a fact is that if he was interested in you, he would call you back the next day and make arrangements for the second date. Same goes for guys who are scratching their heads thinking "why didn't she call?". Again, same scenario described above.

My suggestion is this: you need to accept the concept that dating is a flawed. There are many factors that can prevent two people from being together. Expect nothing from anyone until you’re in a committed relationship, until then, just have fun. Get to know people. If they call back--good for you! If they don't then they probably don't deserve to be with you anyway.

Older women dating younger guys

2008-03-26T00:43:00.006-04:00

One email i received from a female living in Orlando, Florida. She is thirty five years old, single mother wants to know if its alright to date younger guys in their twenties. The answer would be--most definitely yes!

Now, if your goal is to have long term relationship with this fellow, then i would strongly suggest to hold your horses. Do not rush into this. As a matter of fact, i do not even recommend getting involved with a guy that much younger than you for a simple fact that it will not work out. He will probably not be looking for anything serious and if he is only temporarily. To him it is going to be unique experience and maybe curiosity that will drive him to you. After that he will most likely pull away from you or further aggravate you with his surprising or immature behaviour. He is probably still going to clubs full time and drinking with his lady friends at their house. I do not want to completely erase the possibility of successful long-term relationship, however, the odds you being happy with him are against you. It’s a gamble. Are you ready to get your feelings hurt? If the answer is yes, then go for it! If you don’t feel like you have much to sacrifice, take your chance, however if the answer is no and you think that you might fall in love with him then I don’t think its a good idea to begin with.

On the other hand, if you are looking to date younger guys and not looking for anything serious, then I definitely give you a green light on this one. Life is short, so why not! You can have so much fun with him and at the same time you will not pressure him into anything serious and he is going to feel like he is free to do what he wants and knows that he will be welcome to come back into your arms! As long as you have fun, enjoy and don't' make it complicated for him, then you should be just fine.